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Jan. 15th, 2009 @ 11:27 am if you are at all interested...
While I still read blogs and communities on Livejournal, I find myself using Facebook more and more. If you have a Facebook account let me know and maybe we can "Friend-up." I am Gretchen Perkins there. As most of you were friends here on livejournal with Brian/tbone first, most of what is going on in our family is on his blog. I am using blogspot for my primary blog, though. I like it better because I got a new digital camera with my birthday and it's so much easier to add pictures to it. The address is shabbynotsheek.blogspot.com so feel free to check it out if you like.

I am still frequenting livejournal, and I read my friendlist pretty regularly. I don't comment much but I will probably continue to use livejournal.
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Apr. 11th, 2008 @ 05:34 pm (no subject)

My Personality
Openness to Experience
You rarely get angry and it takes a lot to make you angry, however you tend to lack energy and have difficult initiating activities. You tend not to talk much and prefer to let others control the activities of groups. You prefer familiar routines and for things to stay the same. You can tend to feel uncomfortable with change. You find helping other people genuinely rewarding and are generally willing to assist those who are in need. You find that doing things for others is a form of self-fulfillment rather than self-sacrifice, however you generally see others as selfish, devious, and sometimes potentially dangerous. You take your time when making decisions and will deliberate on all the possible consequences and alternatives.

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Mar. 14th, 2008 @ 02:11 pm Please forgive my vanity...
Today I was flashed by a co-worker. She wanted to show me the rash that her new medication has given her, and instead of just telling me about it, she lifted up her shirt and showed me! I would have believed her if she had just told me, really. I don't want to remember this experience, since she is a nice but somewhat aged person and let's just say I certainly got an eye full, but it did inspire this brief song parody that I was able to come up with on the fly:

(Sung to the tune of the Monkees I'm a believer chorus)
"Then I saw her rash...
Didn't have to pay cash
I was stunned...OHHHH
Her chest was rashy
I could cry."
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Mar. 14th, 2008 @ 10:43 am (no subject)
Melissa called last night because she said Jackson needed to tell me something. When he got on the phone, I couldn't really make out what he was saying, but Mom translated for me. He wanted to tell me that I was "old and sick." That two-year-old's mind really works in mysterious ways, although to him I probably do look old and sick.
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Mar. 12th, 2008 @ 02:10 pm just more randomness
What is a question that people ask you that always gets on your nerves?
"When do you plan to go back to work full time?" (I mostly get this from people at work. It bugs me because I work part time so I can spend some time at home being a mom.)

Name something you have in common with all your siblings.
All four of us girls have Bachelors degrees and the same mom and dad :).

What's the last thing you said to someone & to who?
"I didn't hear the bell." to library co-worker

If someone who didn't know you had to guess your name, what hint would give them?
A lot of wiener dogs have the same name as do for some reason.

Name something you have to do tomorrow?

Have you ever called 911?
Yes, but not intentionally.

Do you own an iPod?

Do any of your friends have children?

What CD is currently in your CD player?
It's empty at the moment.

Do you prefer regular or chocolate milk?
regular for everyday, chocolate for special

Has anyone told you a secret this week?

When was the last time you had Starbucks?
like 4 monthes ago

Can you whistle?

Are you currently wanting any piercings or tattoos?

Do you get along better with men or women?
probably women

Do you sleep on your side, stomach, or back?
Side right now, because I'm pregnant.

What are you listening to?
A librarian taking about book fair boxes.

Which of your friends lives closest to you?
Since I consider my sister my friend, one of my best in fact, then I'll say her because we live in the same town.

What did you do yesterday?
"Woke up, got outta bed, dragged a comb across my head." Played Spider Solitaire. Watched a little "Finding Nemo". Read the paper. Tried to finish "I, Robot". Made breakfast and lunch for my son and I. Got son and I read for work/school. Pretended to work. Picked up son from sister's house. Chatted/laughed with sister and bro-in-law. Picked up dinner from McDonald's. Watched "monkey smells butt" video on YouTube with husband and son. Got son ready for bed. Eventually went to bed myself.

What big concerts are you looking forward to?
Rush, even though I can't go because it's too close to my due date.

What's bothering you right now?
My tailbone because I've been sitting too long.

Next vacation you're going on?
Spring Break at CJ Strike Reservoir in S. Idaho, baby!

Last time you had butterflies in your stomach?
Saturday morning, but I can't say why.

What did you dream last night?
Can't remember

Does your phone ring in the middle of the night often?
More than usual probably, but it's just the nature of my husband's job.

What gets in your way when you're sleeping?
Right now my pregnant belly and my body pillow.

What are you doing tomorrow?
Pretty much the same as today.

When was the last time you cried?
Last Wednesday or Thursday.

What is one thing you miss about your past?
not being a grown up

Are you jealous of anyone?

Is anyone jealous of you?
probably not

Who was the last person you drove with?
I took my son to school this morning.

What are you looking forward to?
Meeting our new son/daughter for the first time.

Are you currently single?

Have you ever been in the emergency room?
Yes. I was hit by a car once, we had to take Ethan in 5 days after he was born, a week after that I was in the ER because I was running a fever, and then I am sure I have been in there for other assorted family members.
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Jan. 23rd, 2008 @ 09:57 am A post of randomness
*We're at 23 weeks tomorrow, and everything seems to be going well. Baby Applesauce is moving a lot, a lot more than I remember Ethan moving but of course my memory could have lots of holes considering it was like 6 years ago. Ethan is threatening to move in with Nana and Pappy if we have a girl. Not that I really worry about him leaving, I do worry about helping him to adjust to having a new baby in the house. But the timing of the birth seems to be working in our favor as far as Ethan is concerned because he will be almost done with school for the year, and we'll just have the time to, well, adjust I guess.
*The baby is nicknamed "Applesauce", thanks to Uncle Chad. Since Brian is "Tbone", Ethan became "Porkchop" before he was born. Instead of continuing with the meat themed nicknames, Chad decided we should go with "Applesauce" because applesauce goes with porkchops.
*I try not to worry too much about the future, but there are so many things we need to consider and decide before Applesauce gets here. Just the usual, things like how much should I work, what should we do about daycare, how are we going to rearrange our living space to accomodate a new baby, will I be able to care for two kids. One thing I don't worry about is if I will have enough love for two kids. I love Ethan so much, more and more everyday. He is an amazing person at the young of 6, and it is such an overwhelming blessing to have him in our lives. And since I always find myself loving him more than I thought I could, this is proof to me that love grows. I already love Baby Applesauce so much, even though I just know her through her constant movements and a couple of grainy ultrasounds. But parenting is a tough job, so does this mean it's could to be twice as hard? The one-to-one parent-to-child ratio will help, and Ethan is at the age that he doesn't need a lot of one-on-one care. I just worry about being able to handle it.
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Jun. 22nd, 2007 @ 04:28 pm (no subject)
Do all 5 year olds run into the room and ask, "Mom, what if I built a bicycle with colorful cogs..." or is it just mine?

Also, what does this mean: "Mom, remember I don't work with wood!" when asked if he wanted to make one of the wood projects at the arts and crafts session I signed him up for today?

Ah, the mysterious mind of a 5 year old boy.
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Sep. 25th, 2006 @ 08:25 am (no subject)
Dad and I had a spontaneous conversation about the importance of good parenting yesterday. Like most important conversations I've had lately, it took place on the playground. No kidding. You can see the proof of good or bad parenting on the playground I've decided. Good parents are there on the playground with their kids. Even if all they do is sit on a bench and wave back when their child shouts from the top of the slide, "Hey Mom, look at me!" they are still there. The bad parents are no where to be seen, and usually their kids are the ones who ruin the playground experience for every else. Anyway, my dad and I both agreed that parenting is hard, probably the hardest thing anyone will ever do, if it's done right. Good parenting requires a denial of self that not many people are comfortable with. Children just want to be loved. Unconditionally. Cliched? Yes, but true non-the-less. And true love means putting other people first, putting your child first. Now, this doesn't mean giving a child everything they ever wanted, or do everything for them. Isn't that a form of idolatry? Isn't that a form of neglect? A parent's job is preparing a child to survive in the world on their own, teaching them to fish rather than doing the fishing for them or so the often quoted antedote goes.

Okay, so I am not a perfect parent, nor do I want to be one. But I do want to be a good parent. Why? Because when Ethan is 31, I want to spend moments with him like the moment I spent with my dad yesterday. My parents aren't perfect, but they are good, and everything I learned about parenting I learned from them. And even though parenting is hard, what they did for me is so simple. They were just there. When I stood at the the top of all the slides in my life, real or metaphorical, they were there to wave back. They loved me for who I was, unconditionally, and I never questioned that. (Of course, I never tested the limits of that, but why ruin a good thing by being an ass, right?)

And I had to write something, because I love my Dad and all the small moments I get to spend with him.
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Sep. 17th, 2006 @ 08:12 am My side of the story--please read!
Many of you are on my friends list because you are tbone's friends, and you may have read his recent posts about our lawn. I just wanted to give my side of the story, because I don't what everyone to think I am some slave driver or obessesive compulsive neat freak, not that there is anything wrong with that.

Let me start by saying I love my husband, more that he probably knows. As far as being a wife goes, I try but I know that I am FAR far less than perfect, and last week I had a bad week. I have a few "issues" I am wrestling with which I don't feel like going into. The argument with the lawn has been an ongoing thing, probably since we've lived here. I know that Brian hates the lawn, and I am not sure when we decided he would be the one to care for it. Even though I've offered to take over lawn duties, he has said he should do it. In my defense, I take care of weeding the front flowerbeds although I don't do that very well. For the most part, I think he's done a great job, and even though he hates it, he's out there once or twice a week mowing it.

We only have automatic sprinklers in our front yard. Our backyard has more weeds than grass, but that's been okay, too. I wish we would spend the money and get automatic sprinklers in the backyard, because as it is it probably gets watered about twice a month in the summer, and you can imagine what it looks like after a summer of 100 degree heat. Recently, my sister and bro-in-law gave me some money to get the front yard sprayed for weeds and fertilized, something they were going to do themselves for me in exchange for babysitting my nephew last spring but never got around to before they moved. So, I used the money towards paying for a professional service to come take care of the yard in the front. The lawn was just starting to look green, and the weeds were dying away, when the irrigation line went wonky. We still have about a month of irrigation water available. Considering that I paid a fair amount of money to get the front yard in shape, I don't think it is unreasonable that I want the irrigation line fixed so that we can at least have the front yard looking a bit nicer before fall. Plus, if we don't get it fixed now it could be even more expensive to fix in the spring. What if there is a crack in the line which get worse once it freezes? And then there is the fact that we live in a subdivision and we could have to pay a fine for letting the lawn go brown before its time. Again, this is stuff I've offered to take care of myself but Brian insists he will take care of it. And I trust him.

I only mentioned selling the house because I don't want Brian to have to take care of the lawn which he hates. It's something we've talked about before, the fact that if we ever do move into another place it will definately either have no lawn or such suberb landscaping that it will take care of itself. We live in a desert, and the soil is pretty much alkaline clay. Weeds are the only things that flourish and you must have the patience of a saint to make anything other than dandelions grow. I realize it would be fool-hardy to move into an apartment, and pay rent when we have equity built up. I was thinking more a townhouse or condo anyway. I just wanted to make it easier on Brian, and eliminate this argument over the lawn we keep stumbling into over and over again. Don't you get so tired of fighting over one stupid thing that the best thing is to just eliminate it from your lives all together?

It's been a hard week for me, too. I don't like arguing with my husband, but sometimes things just come to a head, and you have to deal with it. Besides, I don't think the whole issue has been "the lawn". You have no idea the other things that Brian and I talk about, or fight about, or agree on. We don't get it right all the time, but we get it right more than we get it wrong. That's what makes our relationship great, and what makes our family great. Please don't judge me, or us, because of one bad week. I am not petty, just human, not perfect in the least. But I love my husband, and I am doing what I can, just as he is, to fix this.
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