Many of you are on my friends list because you are tbone's friends, and you may have read his recent posts about our lawn. I just wanted to give my side of the story, because I don't what everyone to think I am some slave driver or obessesive compulsive neat freak, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Let me start by saying I love my husband, more that he probably knows. As far as being a wife goes, I try but I know that I am FAR far less than perfect, and last week I had a bad week. I have a few "issues" I am wrestling with which I don't feel like going into. The argument with the lawn has been an ongoing thing, probably since we've lived here. I know that Brian hates the lawn, and I am not sure when we decided he would be the one to care for it. Even though I've offered to take over lawn duties, he has said he should do it. In my defense, I take care of weeding the front flowerbeds although I don't do that very well. For the most part, I think he's done a great job, and even though he hates it, he's out there once or twice a week mowing it.
We only have automatic sprinklers in our front yard. Our backyard has more weeds than grass, but that's been okay, too. I wish we would spend the money and get automatic sprinklers in the backyard, because as it is it probably gets watered about twice a month in the summer, and you can imagine what it looks like after a summer of 100 degree heat. Recently, my sister and bro-in-law gave me some money to get the front yard sprayed for weeds and fertilized, something they were going to do themselves for me in exchange for babysitting my nephew last spring but never got around to before they moved. So, I used the money towards paying for a professional service to come take care of the yard in the front. The lawn was just starting to look green, and the weeds were dying away, when the irrigation line went wonky. We still have about a month of irrigation water available. Considering that I paid a fair amount of money to get the front yard in shape, I don't think it is unreasonable that I want the irrigation line fixed so that we can at least have the front yard looking a bit nicer before fall. Plus, if we don't get it fixed now it could be even more expensive to fix in the spring. What if there is a crack in the line which get worse once it freezes? And then there is the fact that we live in a subdivision and we could have to pay a fine for letting the lawn go brown before its time. Again, this is stuff I've offered to take care of myself but Brian insists he will take care of it. And I trust him.
I only mentioned selling the house because I don't want Brian to have to take care of the lawn which he hates. It's something we've talked about before, the fact that if we ever do move into another place it will definately either have no lawn or such suberb landscaping that it will take care of itself. We live in a desert, and the soil is pretty much alkaline clay. Weeds are the only things that flourish and you must have the patience of a saint to make anything other than dandelions grow. I realize it would be fool-hardy to move into an apartment, and pay rent when we have equity built up. I was thinking more a townhouse or condo anyway. I just wanted to make it easier on Brian, and eliminate this argument over the lawn we keep stumbling into over and over again. Don't you get so tired of fighting over one stupid thing that the best thing is to just eliminate it from your lives all together?
It's been a hard week for me, too. I don't like arguing with my husband, but sometimes things just come to a head, and you have to deal with it. Besides, I don't think the whole issue has been "the lawn". You have no idea the other things that Brian and I talk about, or fight about, or agree on. We don't get it right all the time, but we get it right more than we get it wrong. That's what makes our relationship great, and what makes our family great. Please don't judge me, or us, because of one bad week. I am not petty, just human, not perfect in the least. But I love my husband, and I am doing what I can, just as he is, to fix this.